Food is part of the Moment

While treating Infertility, one of the most common advices I land up giving every day is - "Kindly loose some weight".

Anita (name changed) is one of my patients battling infertility, she has been over-weight for long time.
Every time I met her, I asked her to loose some weight.

Since last one year, she and her family are contemplating for IVF. I met her after nearly 10 months, and I was shocked to see her having lost at least 15kgs of weight.

I asked her - what prompted you too loose weight... you have been avoiding it for last few year that I have known you.

She smiled and with a tear in her eye, replied -

"Doc. I always knew I was over-weight.
Forget Everyone, even I made fun of my weight.
Whenever I saw my old pre-wedding and wedding fotos, I cried and wondered is this the same me.

Every time I open my cupboard, an old dress would ask me.. will you fit into me this year.. or just give me away.

The pain would kill me every morning and every night.
I had nothing else to complain about in life.

But then just like magic, there were moments when I completely forget all that pain.

When I was with family, I was busy enjoying myself, that I forget how many scoops of ice-cream I had.

When I was with my husband, I was so busy loving him, that  2 pizzas and 1 pasta seem just perfect addition to the beautiful time spent.

When  I was alone down listening to music or reading a book, that one drink, chocolate cake or fried snacks seemed my best companion.

I gained weight because in my mind, food was just part of the moment... I never understood it was something that was killing my future moments.

I used to have a lot of guilt.. and I would run for excuses.. i would read stuff like - women gain weight because they accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies. A woman is not fat, she is greatly cultivated.

I tell you doc... every woman knows when she grows fat.. a woman is always amazing.. thin or fat..

but  a woman is not healthy when she is fat!!!"


- Dr.Mayuri Assudani
(Gynaecologsit and Infertility Consultant)