"We are a modern couple" - This seems one of the most laughable statements I come across everyday.
India is today a country were most young adults equate "modernity" with having "pre-marital sex" or "love marriage".
Young adults are more and more involved in multiple sexual partners, spending money on "themselves" and always rebelling against the age old value system.
Everyday I come across young couples who calls them-self "modern" and at the same time are battling "infertility".
Ironically when their reports suggest that they might need to go for donor sperm or donor egg, they suddenly start talking in the most orthodox language.
Common explanations given by these "modern" couples are -
- our child should be our blood, else it won't understand our culture.
- our child should be born out of my womb, else he/she won't ever have attachment to us.
- we are perfect loving parents, having someone else's sperm or egg will make our child imperfect.
I can go on and write a 1000 more such stupid explanations given by "modern" couples.
Remember the meaning of "modern" is too be able to accept yourself, your life and everything in it.
Modern is someone who is free to accept and extend his/her love unconditionally.
Sex, money, power, international trips, fashion doesn't make you modern. Your attitude does.
The luckiest child in the world is one whose parents have actively and acceptingly supported him during his/her upbringing.
if you are really modern or broad minded, then having a donor sperm or a donor egg will make no difference... Its the baby, his health and the love you will share with him, that will be your ultimate goal.
Re-define your modern self.
- Dr.Mayuri Assudani
(Gynaecologist and Infertility Consultant)
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