Most households in India take fertility for granted.
A young woman is expected to deliver her first child within the first 2years of her marriage.
Henceforth there is a big amount of anticipation and expectation which eventually is loaded onto a woman's self as soon as she gets married.
The mother-in-law is the creator and nurturer of such anticipation and expectation.
Most indian mother-in-laws had conceived within the first 2yrs of their marital life, henceforth expect the same from their daughter-in-laws.
Infertility diagnosis strikes any household with extreme stress and fear.
Most family members consciously or sub-consiously look towards the mother-in-law for her experience, support and understanding of such a situation.
Hence mother-in-laws play a crucial role in making sure that infertility treatment eventually culminates into success.
Important points that a loving mother-in-law (MIL) needs to have to during the infertility treatment of her daughter-in-law (DIL)
(these are based on my own professional analysis of infertility cases) -
1. Knowledge - many MIL lack the knowledge about what exactly infertility is.
They wrongly consider fertility related to the regularity of a lady's periods.
It comes as a shock to them, that even though if a girl has normal periods, she might have fertility issues.
The need to have a separate session with the infertility consultant to understand the problem and ask their questions.
2. Psychological support - Indian Media and films have always promoted MIL vs DIL ego battles.
Unfortunately inspired by this, many woman land up in life long battles ego battles which distance them specially in times of need.
A loving MIL is one who -
a. gives company to her DIL during the visits and checkups by the infertility consultant
b. talk to her in a non-judgemental way, helping her fight stress.
c. talks to her son and helps him fight the stress.
d. is a catalyst that promotes love in her son and DIL relationship.
3. Social support - a loving MIL -
a. takes the side of her DIL in public
b. defends the DIL against any criticism or sarcasm.
A loving MIL is the back-bone of a happy family. A happy family is magical ground for fertility.
- B.M.I
A young woman is expected to deliver her first child within the first 2years of her marriage.
Henceforth there is a big amount of anticipation and expectation which eventually is loaded onto a woman's self as soon as she gets married.
The mother-in-law is the creator and nurturer of such anticipation and expectation.
Most indian mother-in-laws had conceived within the first 2yrs of their marital life, henceforth expect the same from their daughter-in-laws.
Infertility diagnosis strikes any household with extreme stress and fear.
Most family members consciously or sub-consiously look towards the mother-in-law for her experience, support and understanding of such a situation.
Hence mother-in-laws play a crucial role in making sure that infertility treatment eventually culminates into success.
Important points that a loving mother-in-law (MIL) needs to have to during the infertility treatment of her daughter-in-law (DIL)
(these are based on my own professional analysis of infertility cases) -
1. Knowledge - many MIL lack the knowledge about what exactly infertility is.
They wrongly consider fertility related to the regularity of a lady's periods.
It comes as a shock to them, that even though if a girl has normal periods, she might have fertility issues.
The need to have a separate session with the infertility consultant to understand the problem and ask their questions.
2. Psychological support - Indian Media and films have always promoted MIL vs DIL ego battles.
Unfortunately inspired by this, many woman land up in life long battles ego battles which distance them specially in times of need.
A loving MIL is one who -
a. gives company to her DIL during the visits and checkups by the infertility consultant
b. talk to her in a non-judgemental way, helping her fight stress.
c. talks to her son and helps him fight the stress.
d. is a catalyst that promotes love in her son and DIL relationship.
3. Social support - a loving MIL -
a. takes the side of her DIL in public
b. defends the DIL against any criticism or sarcasm.
A loving MIL is the back-bone of a happy family. A happy family is magical ground for fertility.
- B.M.I
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