Many young couple have a casual attitude towards having a baby.

Common causal reasons - 
1. Unprotected sex
2. Having a baby to satisfy family
3. Having a baby because your friends are having one.
4. More than 3yrs of marriage. A baby will show the world you are having sex and committed to the relationship now at least for the sake of the baby.

When a couple has a baby for pure casual reasons, it actually cannot give the best to the new born.

Fears of responsibility haunts them and makes them want to run away.

Having a child is very responsible job.
A 24x7 job which never ends.

If you are in the mental frame of having fun and enjoying your freedom then don't even think of pregnancy.
Avoid it.

There is no use of being a incomplete and unemotional parent.

Dr.Mayuri Assudani
(Gynaecologist and Infertility consultant)

Symptoms of female Infertility

1. Changes in the menstrual cycle: - 
abnormal periods 
Irregular periods
No periods
Painful periods

2. Hard growth in the abdomen.

3. Abdominal pain which is frequent, specifically in the lower abdominal area.

4. frequent fever, weight loss without reason 

5. fragile, fainting, fatigued very easily.

6. Hormonal problems - 
a. Dark hair growth on the lips , chest and chin
b. Skin changes - texture of skin becomes paper like,
increase in acne or uncontrolled acne.
c. Changes in sex drive and desire to have sex.
d. Loss of hair or thinning of hair
e. Weight gain - BMI increasing beyond 27.
f. Milky white discharge from nipples unrelated to breastfeeding
g.Pain during sex


Rule out infertility, 
get a complete check up from your gynecologist regularly. 


- Dr.Mayuri Assudani
(Gynaecologsit and Infertility Consultant)

Rituals don't help you too conceive

Myth - You keep blaming woman, believing in myths, practising useless rituals and believing in stupid religious laws to make a woman conceive.


Truth - STOP BEING AN IDIOT!!!

Indian Society is still lost in time. There seems to be only 2 goals of life - 
1. getting married
2. having children.

15yrs ago you used a STD - PCO to call your relatives.Many of us didn't have fix land-lines.
Today you flash the latest mobile phones and are connected to the entire world.

When you have evolved with technology, why hasn't your thoughts evolved.
Why are you still fixated in thoughts of the 20th century.

A woman is a human being. 
She like anyone else needs love, care, confidence and peace.

Stop being STUPID.. STOP thinking that she becomes responsible only after being married or after having children.

A woman's body shouldn't be pushed to the point her mind breaks.

If one cannot conceive on her own then search for a good gynaecologist.

1. get to know the cause of infertility
2. get the cause of infertility cured
3. if after repeated attempts you fail to win over infertility, always think of alternate ways like- 
a. surrogacy
b. adoption.


- Dr.Mayuri Assudani
(Gynaecologsit and Infertility Consultant)

A DAD’S SPEECH AT HIS DAUGHTER’S WEDDING

I thought I would start my speech by addressing you as the “new” family of my daughter... But I think it would be inappropriate because now that she is married, you are “the family” for her. 

Believe me this is the most difficult thing I have ever done. I am giving away a piece of my heart, and I am trying to smile. 

I know its time for us to take a back-seat in her life. And its her duty to make "you" her priority. We happily accept it but would surely request you one thing- 

please keep her happy! 

I am more than sure that you will keep her very happy. 
I wish a point comes where she is happier than what she used to be here. But like all fathers, I obsess over my daughter’s happiness which is making me say this over and over again- 

please keep her happy! 

She never was and will never be a burden for me. She is in fact the reason why I breathe and smile. 
I am getting her married because this is what the law of nature demands. 
I don't shy from saying that I am helpless in the face of our culture and therefore sending her to your home. She was the happiness of my home and will now light up your home. 
I am giving the shine of my world to you. Please make sure it remains beautiful and shining. 
I am giving away my princess to you. Please make sure she stays as a queen. I have raised her with my sweat and blood..

please keep her happy! 

If at times you think that my daughter has said or done something wrong, feel free to treat her as you would treat your own daughter.
Please Handle her with the same love. 

Just like your daughter, sometimes she is also a human being. 
If at times she feels low, be with her. She just needs a little bit of your attention. 
If at times she feels sick, show her some care. It’s the medicine that works best for her.
If at times she fails to full-fill a responsibility, feel free to guide her. 

Please keep her happy! 

I can console my mind, I don’t get to see her for months... though for the last 27yrs I haven't spent a day without seeing her.
I can console my mind, I am not able to talk to her daily... even thought for the last 27yrs I haven't missed a day without talking to her.
The only motive in life has been my daughter’s happiness which is now in your hands. 

please keep her happy.!

MORAL - A DAUGHTER-IN-LAW IS NOT A SUPERHUMAN MEANT TO DO ALL THE WORK IN THE HOUSE, TAKE CARE OF EVERYONE, HAVE SEX WITH HER HUSBAND AND EVEN AFTER THAT GIVE YOU "MALE" GRAND-CHILDREN.

STOP being orthodox.. Understand a Daughter-in-law is just like your daughter.
Let love be the basis of your relationship.

- Dr.Mayuri Assudani
(Gynaecologsit and Infertility Consultant)

Personal Hygiene - Genital Areas!!

Since childhood I was taught that - "God is in Cleanliness" 

As a gynaecologist one of the most common complaints by woman is strong and offensive odour of the vaginal discharge.

Personal Hygiene is one of the most neglected issues along the length and breath of this country.

Personal hygiene doesn't end with wearing a sanitary napkin during your menstrual cycle or taking a bath.

Personal hygiene is a daily routine.
Few tips - 
1. Daily proper washing of genital area
2. Washing of genital area before and after sex.
3. Avoiding using public toilets
4. Wear comfortable cotton undergarments
5. avoid wearing tight clothes for a long time

Infections of the genital areas manifest as - 
1. strong and offensive smell from vaginal discharge
2. offensive smell from the undergarments
3. problems in having sex
4. male partner can complain about odour during sex.
5. UTI or uro-genital tract infection can lead to infertility.

- Dr.Mayuri Assudani
(Gynaecologsit and Infertility Consultant)

T3, T4 and TSH - very important!!!

Patients complaint to me about the "blood tests" that doctors prescribe for them.

No one likes to pay for them, No one likes to get blood drawn from their body for the same.

Blood Tests are essential.

One of the most essential blood tests in infertility is - Thyroid levels.
or commonly known as the T3, T4, TST levels.

Your thyroid is responsible for the metabolism of every cell in your body. It converts iodine into two thyroid hormones: thyroxine (T4) and triiodothyronine (T3). When you have low thyroid function (hypothyroidism) or high thyroid function (hyperthyroidism), it is no surprise that this imbalance can have an effect on your ovaries and your infertility.

Tips to fight infertility if you have a thyroid disorder

1. Get properly diagnosed

2. Ask your doctor about Free T3/Reverse T3 ratio

3. Talk to your doctor about different thyroid medications

4. Lose weight

6. Limit your intake of soy and cruciferous vegetables

7. Avoid toxins

8. Get adequate sleep

9. Reduce your stress

10. Get adequate exercise

- Dr.Mayuri Assudani
(Gynaecologist and Infertility consultant)

Donor Sperm - The taboo

"We are a modern couple" - This seems one of the most laughable statements I come across everyday.

India is today a country were most young adults equate "modernity" with having "pre-marital sex" or "love marriage".

Young adults are more and more involved in multiple sexual partners, spending money on "themselves" and always rebelling against the age old value system.

Everyday I come across young couples who calls them-self "modern" and at the same time are battling "infertility".

Ironically when their reports suggest that they might need to go for donor sperm or donor egg, they suddenly start talking in the most orthodox language.

Common explanations given by these "modern" couples are -

- our child should be our blood, else it won't understand our culture.

- our child should be born out of my womb, else he/she won't ever have attachment to us.

- we are perfect loving parents, having someone else's sperm or egg will make our child imperfect.

I can go on and write a 1000 more such stupid explanations given by "modern" couples.

Remember the meaning of "modern" is too be able to accept yourself, your life and everything in it.

Modern is someone who is free to accept and extend his/her love unconditionally.

Sex, money, power, international trips, fashion doesn't make you modern. Your attitude does.

The luckiest child in the world is one whose parents have actively and acceptingly supported him during his/her upbringing.

if you are really modern or broad minded, then having a donor sperm or a donor egg will make no difference... Its the baby, his health and the love you will share with him, that will be your ultimate goal.

Re-define your modern self.

- Dr.Mayuri Assudani

(Gynaecologist and Infertility Consultant)